tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268673639450945441.post1559762776255137703..comments2023-07-01T05:42:49.543-05:00Comments on Life in the Phisch Bowl: Opportunity????KLTTXhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05544587523337949648noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268673639450945441.post-20247715847338582702008-03-25T05:28:00.000-05:002008-03-25T05:28:00.000-05:00Wow this is a tough decision. You and Chris reall...Wow this is a tough decision. You and Chris really need to think long and hard about if you would accept this child, but in the interim if you take the next step does that withdraw you from other opportunities or commit you to this particular child? If not then I would do what you have to do now to proceed, but continue to think long and hard every day about what this means to you as a family and individually. The age gap between this baby and D would be large enough so that D could be reasoned with and understand outbursts. I am a firm believer that nurture plays a huge role in how people turn out. You and your DH appear to have a strong relationship and are great parents. Also you need to consider that even though there is a genetic disposition for these issues that doesn't mean that it will happen. There aren't any guarantees with children. You know that first hand after your birth experience with D. So much can go wrong with preemies and look how well he turned out. Personally I would go for it. Sometimes things happen for a reason. If you are ultimately matched with then child then I would imagine there is a good reason. In my mind it would mean that if there were difficulties then that child would develop better in your care than anyone elses. You are in my thoughts and prayers. This truly is a difficult decision.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00467158418810784113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7268673639450945441.post-17560814945116553642008-03-22T22:44:00.000-05:002008-03-22T22:44:00.000-05:00I still read your blog. I have your address on my ...I still read your blog. I have your address on my google reader so it tells me when you update your blog. Anyway what a tough decision. I would say really pray about it. I know a few kids from church who have ADHD and they can be a handful but they come from such loving homes and families that really want to help them. I think that is a huge plus for you guys--you will love the baby and give it the help he/she needs. Also, if you go this route, there are medications to help with bi-polar issues. I think you guys would make whatever situation work. I guess you can't be sure than any child you get won't have some issues. This family has a history of mental illness but that doesn't mean if you wait you will not still face this issue with another child. I don't know what I would do if I were in this situation though. I will pray for you guys and this decision. BIG HUGS. Take care.Shamae (Ghost written by Loren her hubby)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14642220903846468776noreply@blogger.com